We had Connor’s IEP a couple of weeks ago. It’s taken me a while to digest it and decide what I think about it.
I requested this IEP. Yep, as much as I hate these meetings, I demanded this one. For months I’ve been asking for them to include a behavior intervention plan (BIP) in his IEP, and I finally got them to do the functional behavior analysis (FBA), the precursor to the BIP, and get it implemented.
With the meeting, I went way out on a limb and became the super pushy parent. It’s an uncomfortable role for me, because I have a tendency to want to be liked. And I want my son to be liked, and to have people really want to help him. But I was determined that he needed a 1:1 shadow during recess, which is when he has the most social problems, and I wasn’t going to get it by being Sally Suck-Up. Connor doesn’t apply skills that he’s heard in a social story, or been reminded of verbally. He needs to learn them in the teachable moment. Makes sense, right?
When a child on the spectrum has an obvious deficit in social skills, and has at least three incidents a week of hitting, why would there not be a behavior plan? I mean, it boggles the mind because it is the opposite of common sense, right?
So we got it. And that’s a good thing, even though it took until nearly the end of the year.
But there’s more. According to the FBA, his primary motivations are escape and attention. To a lesser degree, tangibles. So here’s where I’m confused. They’ve started doing this “social mapping” thing with him, where they sit him down with a paper with all these happy, sad, and angry faces. They talk about whatever he did, how it made the kid feel, how it made the teacher feel, yadda yadda.
Doesn’t that give attention to the incident, which is one of his motivators? Shouldn’t they refrain from doing that, until maybe the next day? AND, consequences so far have been missing PE and missing some other activity. Isn’t escape the other motivator? So aren’t they feeding into both of those things that he is trying to achieve?
And guess what? I emailed this question to the district autism coordinator, who did the FBA and wrote the BIP, and she never responded to me. Just totally blew me off.
And that made me feel…
Don’t get me wrong. There should be some kind of consequence for his actions. But it seems like he’s getting exactly what he wants with all the attention he gets for doing these things.
But since I’m just a…
I guess I’ll just give it some time and see if it produces any results.