RSS Feed

Contradictions

Posted on

I may regret what I’m about to put in writing, but this past 4 weeks has been the most peaceful and pleasant we’ve had in the last 3 years.

In the last 3 years.  3 years.

For 3 years, Connor has been irritable and moody.  That’s a long time to walk on eggshells, friends.  A very long time.

For 3 years, Connor has been the boy prone to aggression.  Not random, out-of-the-blue aggression.  It’s always in response to a real or perceived injustice or slight.  A toy taken, a rule broken, an unkind word said…things that would be met with a push, or a hit.

3 years of bad reports.  3 years of punishments and consequences.  3 years of various therapies.  3 years of wondering if we were failed parents.

4 weeks ago we stopped one of the medications, against the doctor’s advice.  4 weeks ago the irritability subsided, the aggression stopped.

For 3 years, Connor was defined a certain way, put into a certain category.  Now he must be redefined, recategorized.

2 weeks ago, we went to a picnic at the park.  Connor saw a little girl on the swing.  He went up to her mother and asked to push her on the swing.

A strong breeze would have given her a harder push.

3 years later...

.

Advertisements

About Flannery

Kid, husband, dogs, my mother, full-time job, maximum stress, minimal relaxation...sooner or later I had to vent. AND we moved from California to Texas. I could start a whole other blog about that.

16 responses »

  1. Sending you a cyber fist bump and shot of tequila. Hooray for walking on something other than eggshells.

    Reply
  2. OMG!! He’s absolutely adorable!! What a smart move you made. Congrats mom, a beautiful moment, captured forever in that photo. ((Hugs))

    Reply
  3. I also just blogged about irritability. Yours ended by taking medication away. My son’s starts with any disappointment but he’s never been on meds. He’s always had a great and sweet personality but he can be so angry at times too.

    Reply
  4. Simply put… this is AWESOME!

    Reply
  5. OMG,OMG,OMG…YAY!!!! That is so awesome!!!

    That being said, please don’t go back and beat yourself up for not stopping the medication sooner. Hindsight is 20/20 and you never would have known. DO NOT look back with regret. Look forward with your happy little man-cub and run with it.

    Stop it I say and forward march…..you hear me?!? 😉

    Reply
  6. Wow…that is fantastic! Were there any benefits to the meds that you’ll miss? Hope not! Here’s hoping that it’s all positive…you definitely deserve a good long streak of rainbows and unicorns!

    Reply
    • @Lynn No major changes, maybe a little bit less focused and more hyper, but not that much more. The benefit has far outweighed that change.

      Reply
  7. Whatever works!! I’m truly glad you found something that works. Rock on.

    Reply
  8. So…stinkin’…sweet…And what a beautiful boy!!!! YAY!!!

    Good for you for following your gut, Mom!!!! YAY!!!!

    Reply
  9. Woohoo! Kudos to going with your gut and doing the Mom thang! I hope your new found peace remains for a very long time to come. 🙂

    Reply
  10. So cute. So glad for the peace. Enjoy it.

    Reply
  11. That’s awesome!! Sometimes we need to trust ourselves as parents and the ones who know our children best. I’m so happy for this news! Yay! Doing the happy dance!

    Reply
  12. Sometimes meds that were once the right answer stop fulfilling their function, which is understandable when you think that our kids’ bodies and needs change. It takes an insightful carer to guess where the problem lies though – we tend to think “once an answer, always an answer”. So cheers to you for identifying the source of the problem. Hope the peace lasts!

    Reply
  13. This is so, so awesome. That picture is beautiful, as is the story behind it. Congrats!

    Reply

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: